Take the BIGGEST Step In Your Weight Loss Journey!
Now is the time...
It’s time to take the BIGGEST step in your weight loss journey!
So how hard was it to be brutally honest with yourself with last week’s homework?
I hope you were able to do it and not be judgmental or have any negative thoughts about your answers.
But you know what...
...if you did
and then were mentally aware of the negative thoughts, then good for you!!!
Remember step 1 in this journey?
Mental awareness!
Now that you have worked on simple mindfulness...
...noticing and naming when you are engaging in negative self-talk...
Then it's time to get honest WITH YOURSELF!
For many of us, this can be more difficult, because this requires looking at "our stuff" or “our baggage” as some would say.
It requires we have an open and honest discussion about our insecurities with ourselves. Thus get ready for your biggest step yet!
How do you begin this step?
Well we started it last week when you answered those 9 questions.
Now it is time to dig deeper and deal with your insecurities.
So, first I want you to think about the time(s) you are most insecure or embarrassed.
Name those situations and write them down.
These are embarrassing and scary to think about I know...
...but if you don’t start dealing with them head on you will never make the necessary changes you need to make in order to let them go and live a healthier lifestyle.
You need to feel ok to start naming your insecurities, out loud.
You need permission to investigate your own insecurities freely and STOP DEFENDING THEM.
What do I mean by that?
Let’s say for example, you are walking on the beach with your significant other when he/she compliments another person in passing...
...and then after the exchange, turns to you and says, "Wow, so-and-so is really beautiful/handsome.”
Do you immediately clam up, get angry and give him/her the cold shoulder?
If your significant other asked you what was wrong would you reply “NOTHING!”
Then he/she asks if you are jealous and your immediate answer is “OF COURSE NOT!"
Well in this case you are feeling very insecure and are defending it by pretending it's not happening. This is called DENIAL.
So here's your final homework assignment!
Write down at least 3 scenarios where you remember feeling insecure or upset or threatened or disappointed.
Once you are done with this step I then want you to review those scenarios and ask yourself this:
What was it ABOUT ME that made me feel that way?
By being able to NAME the insecurity--call it out--we are able to begin to DIFFUSE it.
This is such a powerful exercise in moving THROUGH struggle, rather than running away from it, which is what many people do their entire lives.
So call out your own BS.
Review your scenarios, dissect them as if you were an objective stranger watching the scene unfold.
I want you to take a step back and look at the scenarios you listed as if you were helping a friend and ask theses hard questions:
- Can I see where the
other person is coming from?
- Could I give them the
benefit of the doubt? (i.e. they are probably doing their best)
- Can I see that they are
not trying
to hurt me or make me feel badly?
- Can I see that my
feelings are a results of MY not feeling good enough?
- Can I see that the way I
feel has nothing to do with them?
That maybe they just happened to create the perfect opportunity for me that I have been waiting for...
...the chance to feel not worthy.
That maybe I CHOOSE to feel that way?
These are hard questions I know...how do they sit with you?
Are you defending your answers right now? :)
Good luck with this assignment.
It’s the dirty work we try to avoid but it needs to be done if you want to deal with your insecurities...
...instead of always falling back on bad habits when dealing with your negative feelings.
Like eating that pint of Ben and Jerry's.
I know this is hard stuff to do but remember to be honest and patient with yourself.
These were called STEPS in your weight loss journey for a reason.
Sometimes we go up those steps and sometimes we get tripped up or tired and have to take a step back.
This is ok!
This is a process and as long as you keep working at it you will get better at it.
Another important part of this process will be to surround yourself with supportive people.
You need to be able to reach out for help and have someone keep you in check.
So when you are having a bad day you have someone to help make sure you work on yourself and not just fall back on the poor eating habits that put the extra weight on in the first place.
If you don’t have someone like that or need additional support please contact myself at...
jenn@efcfit.com or any coach at Everybodys Fitness Center at info@efcfit.com
Whether you are a member or not, let us help you thru this difficult process.









